If you were to ask me what is one of my biggest struggles as a Mom of two. I would say right off the bat, “Balancing their quality time individually.”
For the moms and dads that have more than one kid, do you ever find this to be a struggle? Do you ever find yourself catering to one child more than the other? I do from time to time which then leads to that oh-so-fun thing, Mom guilt.
Zoe, my oldest, was my number one for two years and we did everything together. She was my adventure buddy, my shopping sidekick, all in all, my little personalized mini BFF. Then Sofia came along. As if adjusting to having two kids wasn’t enough. Let’s add her colic, which required SO much effort and attention that it really took away from Zoe.
Man, a colicky child and energetic 3 year old, then, that just wanted all of mommy’s attention and to be entertained all while being home bound through a pandemic. It was rough, but I always tried my best. So while stuck in the house my only way of individual quality time was during alternating nap times. Sound relatable?
Fast forward to now, a lot has changed. The girls are growing fast, they’re more energetic and require even more attention. Sofía, because of her colic is still so glued to Mommy and because she is my last, I do find myself wanting to embrace every clingy moment with her. More so, because it makes me realize how fast Zoe just grew. At the same time, I knew Zoe noticed the “extra given attention” because her slight change of behavior spoke loudly.
I know I’ve also had A LOT on my plate and because Zoe can be so independent. I tend to think she gots this. She’s okay, but is she? Then I think back on her love languages. As much as she is a girl of affirmations. She is also a little girl who requires just as much quality time and honestly every kid needs QT, but finding that balance between two or more can definitely be challenging. Especially too when there are so many other mom duties to tend to on top of everything. The balance struggle is real!
But meanwhile, even though now that I have two mini BFFs, I have started to learn just how important it is to make each of their quality time a priority. Especially Zoe’s. So whether that’s implementing set monthly Mommy/Zoe dates and/or doing more coloring/craft time while Sofia sleeps, because let’s be realistic too. My baby girl starts K4 in three months! The freedom we have now will soon be filled with new routines, changes, homework, and school activities. So I’d say the time to take advantage of all the QT time I can get…is NOW.
What are some ways you implement individual quality with your littles?
Blissful Burgos 
I found it very difficult to be honest trying to spend time with each child and making sure everyone had enough QT. It does sounds like you have found a solution to this problem indeed!
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