Happy Monday! #MomMonday
I’m sure many of you have been counting the days until 2021 and now that December is finally here. We are that much closer to putting the year 2020 behind us. This has definitely been one crazy year to say the least, a pandemic to forever remember that had affected so many of us in different ways. So today I wanted to talk about how did Covid affect your little ones?
Although my girls are three and one and I have had the blessing to say I didn’t have to worry about schools shutting down and virtual classes. Covid still took a big impact on my three year old. The isolation and distance that took place in not seeing her favorite loved ones and friends, took an emotional toll on her and it was hard.
She was used to having play dates and seeing family throughout the week/weekends. That she eventually caught on to the unusual routine. Yes we had FaceTime, but that wasn’t enough. Zoe needed that physical quality time. To hug, play with, and talk to. So hearing her ask her grandpa (Belo), grandma (Bela), and Aunt (Titi Maria) every time over the phone, “Are you going to come with me Zoe?” and seeing her sad little face, because she couldn’t. SUCKED!
Fast forward a few months in. The joy and sparkle in her eyes when she could finally see her Belo, Bela, and Titi. She was ecstatic! BIG hugs. Check. Play time. Check. Overall quality time was great and fun as always…until it was time to say goodbye. The meltdown this girl had was none that I have ever seen. Her cries were as if someone was literally ripping her away from the ones she loved and was never going to see them again. At first I got upset. I didn’t get it. She never acted that way before. This was something new and I felt confused and frustrated trying to calm her down.
Then it happened again. Then again. Then on her birthday she had two friends come over at separate times and at each goodbye she freaked out. At this point I was like okay she never gets like this with her friends and that’s when it clicked. Separation Anxiety and at this point the goodbye cries turned into hyperventilation where throwing up followed. It literally killed me inside to see her that way. To know that she really thought and felt like she will never see them again and her telling ‘so&so’ don’t leave me! Yelling “NOOOO!” as she watches from the window. It was Pure Heartbreak!
Things have finally calmed as we are now months into this pandemic and overtime with breathing technics, allowing her to voice her feelings, and using calm words to comfort her has really helped her a lot. I continuously pray that her soul remains calm and she remains strong, because even though things have gotten back to some form of normalcy in our home and family routines. The future is still unknown, but one thing I know if the world were to shut down again. We’ll be more mentally and emotionally prepared.
#MyLoveYouAreAFighter ♡︎
Blissful Burgos 
We were blessed to not really be cut off from my parents but for the first few months Ezra was unable to see his dad. This led to major acting out and attitude, talking back, meltdowns etc. We muscled through by having conversations about feelings, how to handle when we feel a certain way, take breaks from each other and lots of FaceTime.
I have noticed Ezra seems to now be a little more antisocial, doesn’t want to talk in school (he’s virtual), doesn’t want to play with kids at the playground etc. But he is also so attached to me. He’s always been my little boy, but this is so much more. It’s complete clingyiness, crying when I have to go into work. Sitting right on top of me when I’m working, following me around the house etc etc.
He seems to be adjusting a little better now but I fear the return to “normalicy.” I fear separation anxiety, sadness and issues with adjusting to in person school.
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Oh Hun. Yea I can just envision what you’re going through with your son. Just remember to take it one step at a time. Remember to keep that continuation of being able to talk about feelings, because it allows you to show him that his feelings are valid and that you care. Covid has definitely did a number on us all, but it’s also taught us the lesson of adjusting and embracing. So as frustrating as it may be, embrace these moments, focus on the positive outcomes, and continue adjusting as needed until you both are in a place of content and peace. You got this Mama!
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